Growing
up in Eatontown, NJ. There were two Little League teams in town; The
Smoke Eaters, sponsored by the volunteer fire department, and the
Hawks, sponsored by the local Catholic church. The two teams couldn’t
have been more different, in that the Smoke Eaters frequently made it
to state and regional tournaments, while the Hawks could hardly win a
game. I can’t explain the discrepancy. Maybe the firemen/dad
coaches were more aggressive than the church-going/dad coaches. Who
knows?
I,
of course, played for the Hawks. Even within the lower achieving
church team, I stood out as having no discernible baseball ability.
When I played the outfield, baseballs would sail right by my
outstretched fielder’s glove. The other outfielders on my team
would skew their positions so as to be closer to me. In case balls
would come my way, one of the other guys could run behind me and
field the balls that I usually missed. Opposing batters would step up
to the plate and point at my position on the field, ala Babe Ruth,
indicating that they were going to try to hit to me. The coach moved
me to the catcher’s position to keep me out of trouble I guess.
Then when the other team saw it was me catching, they stole bases at
will.
So,
the coaches worked with me on my batting and fielding skills,
spending hours of their time helping me be a better person and
baseball player, in accordance with the Little League mission
statement, to wit;
“Through
proper guidance and exemplary leadership, the Little League program
assists youth in developing the qualities of citizenship, discipline,
teamwork and physical well-being," according to Little League
International. "By espousing the virtues of character, courage
and loyalty, the Little League Baseball® and Softball program is
designed to develop superior citizens rather than stellar athletes.”
Nah-just
kidding. Coaches only cared about one thing, winning games. Kids like
me got to play once in a while, and only when the games mattered
least, like after there was no chance of the Hawks making it to the
playoffs.
One
day I asked coach if he would put me in some games, now that we were
out of contention. He laughed and said “Sure, you can play now
Silva”. These guys always used our last names. Maybe it was some
military thing. I don’t know.
Anyway,
me being able to “play now” actually meant that I could be the
third base coach, you know, the person standing next to the base,
either stopping or waving through the base runner. When you run the
bases it’s difficult to tell where the ball is, and so you need someone to indicate to you whether to stop at third or keep running to
home plate.
I
was thrilled to be a third base coach, you know, helping the team. I
didn’t realize that they only gave me the job to keep me out of the
way. Also, base runners kind of ignored my signals, doing instead
what they wanted. Everyone knew I was just there for show, an
affirmative action token. I didn’t care. I just wanted to be part
of the team in whatever capacity. I coached third base with gusto,
waving my arms furiously in different signals to the base runners.
Everything went fine until that game.
It
was later in the season-1956. The game was actually close-the Hawks
were only 1 run behind in the last inning. Tommy Miller stood on
second base, Eddie Sharkey on first. At the plate batted Paul
Townsend, whom I thought of as Rooty Kazooty, after a cartoon
character of the era who wore his baseball cap sideways.
There he is.
Anyway,
on the 2-2 pitch, Rooty..er Paul hit the ball into far right field,
and the runners started rounding the bases for home. Tommy came
around third and by the time he got to home Eddie was in full gallop.
His reaching home would win the game.
I
stood there wildly waving my left arm in great windmills urging Eddie
to run. As I waved, I happened to look down..and noticed that Eddie
had not touched third base as he ran, but just ran past it. You can’t
do that in baseball-you need to touch each base. That was the rule.
So,
noticing the grave error, I started calling to the umpire, shouting
“He missed the base, he missed the base”. Suddenly coach came
barreling off the bench toward me, red-faced and screaming through
bared teeth “Shut up, shut up!”. He got to me and hissed “You
don’t tell the umpire when your guy breaks a rule-that’s the
ump’s job!. I sputtered “but Eddie missed the base!” “I saw
him miss the base!” Coach said that if the umpire doesn’t see the
error, then you can get away with it, and that’s OK.
I
learned a valuable lesson that Summer day. By the way, I never played
Little League baseball again. The lesson is that lying, in this case
lying by omission, isn’t a sin unless you get caught. Extend that
sentiment to other areas. ___ isn’t a ___ unless you get caught.
Let’s try it;
Speeding
down the road isn’t a traffic violation unless you get caught-not
so bad.
Shop
lifting isn’t a petty crime unless the store owner calls your mom-a
little more serious.
Rape
isn’t a heinous crime unless your victim can convince the cops to
act-Very serious.
It
seems as though any behavior is tacitly allowed, as long as you are
not found out.
These
days I like to ask myself what is the guiding principle behind the
decisions I face and make. I ask that of others too. I do know,
though, that “because we wanna win the game” is not a principle
at all, but just an excuse.